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3 Ways Comparison Steals Your Identity | The Rebelution

Today’s the day! On March 22, 2018, Sarah Merly officially published her first guest article outside of Defy Augury—“3 Ways Comparison Steals Your Identity” for a large Christian website called The Rebelution, which is a self-described “teenage rebellion against low expectations.” This has been a milestone I’ve longed to achieve for a while now, and I can’t believe I actually reached it today! Thank you all for your support:)

Everyone has a model to which they compare their lives, a kind of outfit they want to dress themselves in.

As children, we had an unselfish kind of admiration. Our heroes, whether real or fictional, did good and left a beautiful difference on the world, so we resolved to do the same.

But that was childhood.

As we enter the teen years, our simple admiration turns to envy as we compare ourselves to these heroes. Comparison, if left uncontrolled, attempts to overtake our lives with an illusion. It tantalizes us with the idea that if only we change ourselves to become more like those we admire, we’ll be satisfied and lead fulfilling lives.

The problem with illusions, though, is that they never give us the whole picture. Comparison is, in reality, one of the devil’s greatest deceivers. But before we fight it, we must understand the truth behind what it seems to “offer.”

Comparison places your identity in someone else.

“For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ…For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body.” – 1 Corinthians 12:12-15

When we compare ourselves to others, constantly worrying over whether we are better or worse than our neighbor, we aren’t being ourselves. We don’t recognize that God has given each of us a unique purpose and that he has equipped us with the abilities and strength to achieve that purpose.

If, for instance, an aspiring musician said, “Yeah, I think I’m a good singer, but I’m probably not the next Elvis,” those around him would think he hasn’t made his identity his own. It sounds more like he isn’t confident in himself, like he has no hope for who he is, and instead chooses to trust someone else to give him his identity.

When we act like that musician, trying to gain more than we lose, we don’t realize that we’re slowly losing everything. Just as a foot, in wanting to be a hand, doesn’t realize it’s losing itself, so we, in comparing ourselves to others, don’t realize that our very self is shriveling away.

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~Sarah Merly

March 22, 2018

Isaiah 53